Sexting Tips That Will Drive Your Partner Crazy: Send The Hottest Sexts And Nudes

Away from your girlfriend or boyfriend, and want to have a good sexy time while you’re apart? Maybe you just met someone on a sexting app like SendNudes, or even a dating app like Tinder. Whatever the reason, you want to send the hottest messages and best nude pictures possible to really get their juices flowing. We’ve put together this guide to help you becoming a sexting master.

Tips For Turning Your Partner On Through Text

Tell them a fantasy.

Remember how you can’t wait to imagine yourself with someone when you first meet them? Well, let them imagine a scenario with you. Tell them a really hot scene in which you play a sexual role.

Some of the top fantasies include:

  • A hot bathroom scene.
  • The idea of you spanking them while they are tied up.
  • Watch porn with you, then have your first sex together.
  • Playing with themselves and the idea of you watching.
  • Using lube and toys.
  • In the shower.
  • In a public bathroom.
  • Having a threesome.

Ask them question.

Give your partner a hypothetical question about what they think your next move will be. And keep it sexy and sexy and sexy! Take turns asking questions like:

  • What would you do if I came in your mouth right now?
  • What do you fantasize about most?
  • What do you do in the shower?
  • What would you like to see me do?
  • I am wearing a very sexy bra and very low cut t-shirt. How would you like me to take it off?
  • Will you have me lick your feet?
  • Are you turned on?
  • Do you prefer being on top or bottom?

Keep it exciting.

This is very important, so be sure you’re always sending a little bit of tease. For example, be naughty by starting with a body part that you know is a turn on for them. But then, stop teasing and start sharing.

How To Take The Best Nude Selfies

To take the best nude photos that will make your partner turned on to the max, it’s important to keep in mind some basic photography tips.

  1. Get The Right Lighting.

Obviously, if you’re going to be in your underwear or naked, you want yourself to look as good as possible, so your lighting needs to be good. Make sure you’re in a room with good natural light. Using artificial light could be problematic, because it doesn’t really give your skin a good glow, unless you have special lighting made for photos and videos.

  1. Find The Perfect Pose.

If you’re in your room or a public place, there are a lot of options for you to choose from. You can sit in front of the mirror, which will work if you have a set up with a mirror. You can also lie down on your bed. If you’re in a public bathroom, you can stand there with your back to the wall. Make sure your sexy parts are prominent in the photo, or don’t if you want to tease your sexting partner.

  1. Choose Your Clothing Well.

It’s always a good idea to choose what you’re wearing with care. If you’re in your underwear, think about what you’re wearing. Are you wearing a thong or a bra? What do you like best about it? Is it sexy, but not too sexy? Do you want to show off your breasts or are you more into the idea of showing off your ass or tits?

  1. Share It With Your Partner.

Once you’re done taking your own photos, ask your partner to take a look. You may need to get their opinion on how you look or how you should pose. Then, send it off and see if they like it. If all went well, they’ll be horny and begging you for more.


Sexting is a huge part of dating these days, and most people will tell you that it’s a great way to have some fun. If you want to really make your partner turn on, and you want to start sending a lot of sexy messages and nudes, follow the tips you’ve just read.

Picking The Best Outfit For A First Date Hookups

First dates are usually exciting, but getting dressed can be just as difficult. There’s pressure about wanting to make a good first impression and the anxiety this causes about what to wear. The key to a successful first date outfit is to find a balance between polished and relaxed.

Whether you’re going out for dinner, a movie or a coffee, we have a beautiful, flattering date night outfit that will inspire you. There’s no single answer for to what’s the best outfit, but there are a few tricks to create great clothing matches your date with love.

When a date is coming up, it is likely that you are excited and anxious about what to wear. Every woman has this problem at one point or another, and the pressure to impress is through the roof. Choosing the right outfit for your first date can be a challenge, but it gets easier when you agree on an outfit that you will be praised for when you wear it. Pick a shade that compliments you and wear it on your first casual date.

Plan ahead

It may sound obvious, but give yourself plenty of time to plan what you’re going to wear. When planning your first date outfit, there are a few things to consider. The weather, the activities and what makes you look and feel good. All these things play into what you wear on the first date.

I wouldn’t say it’s about wearing something that makes you feel good. It’s about making you feel like the best version of yourself. At the end of the day, it’s about trust. You should feel comfortable with what you’re wearing and it should show. 

Don’t over do it, or under do it

You don’t want to overdo it on your first date. If you opt for a backless, low-cut front, wear it with a maxi skirt or jeans. If you wear shorts, balance them with long sleeves and low heels.

Avoid extremely trendy outfits and heavy makeup. Natural and minimal is best for a first date. A survey by the dating app Fuck Buddies App revealed that most men prefer when women wear less makeup.When it comes to make-up, try to strike the right balance so that your partner appreciates your efforts. 

Your outfit doesn’t have to be too loose or too big to flaunt your figure, but it shouldn’t be too tight either. Jeans or a casual dress is my best advice on the first date. Previously I’ve mentioned Ace Hotel, one of my favorite places to buy clothes.

Avoid clothing that implies that you are making a minimum of effort. Do not take a date when you appear in outdated or tattered clothes. When trying on dark jeans, pair them with a short-sleeved T-shirt or dark jeans and a sports jacket. 

Final thoughts

After a lot of trial and error I found out that I had a lot of success on the first dates, but it doesn’t depend on the outfit. It’s how I feel in my own skin, which means I have to learn how to dress. Let me be clear: I do not measure success by a second date or its perks, but rather by how well we managed it.


sorry for the late post today! thankfully it’s a stack post I know you’ll love. today’s killer stack comes from Jivita Harris-Casey, a jewelry designer and mama to two wonderful little boys. here’s what she has to say about her stack…

The grouping changes pretty regularly, depending on the mood and sometimes the nail color! They are all sterling silver rings from my collections.

The open almost eye shape on the far pinky is the newest design and is called burnt water.

Its shape was inspired in part by Navaho rug weavings, and specifically a weaving style from the ’70s, where this ring gets its name. The stack with the lapis and snake textured pyramid is a combination I wear almost daily.

The Path rings were inspired by the brick roads in Europe.

I loved the way different brickwork and cobblestones would intersect and create these amazing patterns. I designed several patterns so that the wearer could always be creating and changing their path.

The large bezel set stone stackers and pyramids add a little sculpture to the combinations. 

On the other hand, I have a one of a kind sapphire, gold, and silver ring that I absolutely love paired next to one of my Path Rings set with tiny amethyst and nestled between hammered gold-fill bands. This is my favorite combination to wear on any occasion, from first date hookups to when I’m at work.

I don’t always wear rings when I am working at the bench, but when I don’t have my hands on my tools I love to stack on the jewelry!

love that polish and love that stack! thanks Jivita!


Tave you heard of the delightful spirits from Art in the Age

With an amazing collection including ROOT, SAGE, SNAP, and RHUBARB, there’s something for everyone.  a few weeks ago, the kind folks at Art in the Age sent us a bottle of their SNAP to test out.  and let me tell you… it’s incredible. An excellent choice to impress your friends, family, or to show off on a first date before you hook up.

we’ve been mixing it with everything from hard apple cider to ginger ale and have even drizzled it over dulce de leche gelato and baked it into a cake!  I thought I’d share with you a little cocktail I whipped up today.

makes 2 drinks

2 very ripe persimmons, pulp scooped and pureed
3 oz of SNAP
4 oz of apple cider*
1 generous knob of ginger, chopped
fizzy water
apple slices for garnish

Shake the persimmon puree, apple cider, and ginger really well in a shaker with ice.  divide evenly between glasses and fill with fizzy water to the top.  dash with cinnamon, garnish with apple slices, and enjoy!

to find SNAP or any of the other Art in the Age spirits in your area, visit their website here.

*not the hard stuff this time, but it’d probably be really good!  you could swap out the regular apple cider and fizzy water for hard cider.  I recommend Doc’s Pumpkin Cider or Anthem Apple Cider.


While my family and I are enjoying fun in the sun in the Philippines, I’ve asked a few of my favorite ladies to contribute a little guest post for Unruly Things.  first up – Kelly from Design Crush.

Hi there, Unruly Things! It’s Kelly from Design Crush, popping in for a quick hello while Alyson is off gallivanting and being adventurous on the other side of the world.

Keeping things in the vein of travel, there’s no doubt that you’ve heard of the Ace Hotel.

The modern Bohemian boutique has locations in New York City, Palm Springs, Portland, Seattle, and Los Angeles, and pride themselves on taking existing buildings and the area’s culture to the next level.

They also have an online shop brimming over with just the sort of things you would expect – quality leather goods, music, and super soft attire among others.

These are just a few of my favorites, click over to the Ace Hotel Shop to check out the rest!

thanks Kelly!!


I’m not sure when or where it first started but I’ve been seeing Butter London polish popping up in shops and on numerous blogs lately.  with all those gorgeous colors and the fact that it’s one of the “best natural polishes” out there, there’s no surprise why. If you’re wearing open toed shoes on a date, then nail polish is an important part of your outfit for making a good impression and hooking up.

dlb has never been a fan of me wearing polish with all the chemicals and a mile-long list of harmful ingredients.  so last June when I was making plans to get a pedicure for our wedding, he directed me to Butter London. 

I quickly ordered two colors, Macbeth and Pink Ribbon, from the only online shop I could find carrying them at the time, Olivine.  they arrived shortly before our wedding {when I took these photos} then somehow I got too busy to post about them back then.  I wonder why? 😉

I love the polish, however as you may know, I’m not a big polish wearer at all so I don’t really have much to compare to.  regardless, I think it coats great, the colors are amazing and vibrant, it stays on for a good while and it’s “three-free”. 

According to this article from The Daily Green, “There is no nail polish that is TOTALLY natural but the best thing to look for in nail polish is one that is “Three-Free,” meaning free of toluene, dibutyl phthalate (DHB) and formaldehyde — all known carcinogenic ingredients.”

So there are my two cents!  and I’m quite enjoying adding pretty colors to some of my outfits posts to see how I could incorporate more polish into my life.  and speaking of outfits… I’m dreaming of a babymoon.


Since Alyson’s big day is today, I thought I’d share a tiny bit of advice for any other newlyweds out there – write love letters. 

My husband and I have been married for more than two years, and my husband still sends me little love notes every now and then. 

The timing is totally random, and every time one shows up – either in our mailbox or as a note left on a pillow or desktop – I can’t help but smile. 

My husband and I see each other every single day and it can be easy to get bogged down by all the things that go into daily life – cleaning our apartment, paying bills, running errands on the weekends. 

These little notes are a sweet reminder of our love for each other and the fact that we chose to spend the rest of our lives together, both the fun parts and the not-so-fun parts.

I’ve kept every single note in a little box on my bedside table and every time I look through that box I realize all over again why he’s the perfect person for me and you can learn more here.

I got a bike!

I’ve been talking about getting a bike for so long now. The new place where dlb and I are living is just a short distance to my office and in a great location for walking or… bike riding!  after walking to work for almost two weeks now, I finally decided it was bike time.

over the weekend I test rode a Linus Mixte.  I fell in love with the 60′s French-inspired design, the smooth ride, and those leather handlebars. 

I wasn’t sure about the color choices but ultimately went with black, of course

I love it!

Once we brought it home, dlb and I quickly got our things together and set off for an afternoon bike ride. 

It was so warm yesterday! 

The sun felt great and it was so wonderful to ride! 

We headed to a restaurant in our neighborhood for beer & nachos {the perfect bike riding treat} and off we went for more riding until the sun went down.

Photographer Spotlight:: Stephanie Congdon Barnes

Since photography has become quite a love of mine, I’ve decided to add a new feature to unruly things for a bit of weekly eye candy.

For the very first installment of photographer spotlight, I bring you the work of a very lovely and talented lady. we all know her from her daily posts at 3191 and her adorable plush animals.

So, what better way to start off a series than with an inspiring photographer and artist like Stephanie Congdon Barnes. I love her eye for beauty and I’m always left smiling after viewing her photos. so here she is!

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what first sparked your interest in photography:
A desire to stop time.

what was your first camera:
Well, I had a point and shoot film camera in high school, but my NIkon D50 was my first SLR.

favorite thing to photograph:
My everyday life with my family.

favorite artist/photographer:
So hard as I’m influenced by so many in different ways! What attracts me to a photograph is usually a sense of intimacy or simplicity.

most memorable advice you’ve been given:
You can have the life you want.

advice you’d give starting or aspiring photographers:
Well, I only consider myself an aspiring photographer, but I would say to develop and nurture your own point of view. Photograph what you know and love and that reverence will show in your photographs.

favorite color:
robin’s egg blue

if you could eat only one thing:
Hmmn, something sweet/spicy/salty…spiced sugared almonds?

something you can’t live without:

on repeat from your headphones:
“A Bird Flies By” by Port O’Brien

what inspires you:
The natural world, domesticity and food, childhood, light, simplicity, nostalgia…